http://www.EDGEonthenet.com Your life... with an EDGE. en-us 2013 EDGE PUBLICATIONS, INC. editor@edgepublications.com (Managing Editor) webmaster@edgepublications.com (Webmaster) Wed, 19 Jun 2013 14:34:37 -0400 http://www.EDGEonthenet.com/rss Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual/Transgender/Talk It Out http://www.edgeedgeonthenet.com/?145215 http://www.edgeonthenet.com/index.php?ch=columnists&sc=talkitout&sc2=4&sc3=&id=145215 Escalating violence against gays is terrifying, but is the option of arming ourselves against would-be bashers a comfort -- or an escalation? Fri, 31 May 2013 00:00:00 EST http://www.edgeedgeonthenet.com/?143786 http://www.edgeonthenet.com/index.php?ch=columnists&sc=talkitout&sc2=4&sc3=&id=143786 Many bottoms have a stigma about being considered effeminate and other stereotypes. Such fears may hide a wider self-internalized homophobia. Sun, 21 Apr 2013 00:00:00 EST http://www.edgeedgeonthenet.com/?142843 http://www.edgeonthenet.com/index.php?ch=columnists&sc=talkitout&sc2=4&sc3=&id=142843 In today's stressed-out world, we all need to find pursuits that give us downtime and take us away from our routine. Sat, 23 Mar 2013 00:00:00 EST http://www.edgeedgeonthenet.com/?141951 http://www.edgeonthenet.com/index.php?ch=columnists&sc=talkitout&sc2=4&sc3=&id=141951 Per Bette Midler, you gotta have friends. It takes work & sometimes they're a pain. But it's important to have them there by your side when you need them. Mon, 25 Feb 2013 00:00:00 EST http://www.edgeedgeonthenet.com/?141055 http://www.edgeonthenet.com/index.php?ch=columnists&sc=talkitout&sc2=4&sc3=&id=141055 Rejection isn't easy. It's harder when you're in late middle age. Does that mean giving up? No, but it means accepting realistic expectations about Mr. Right. Mon, 28 Jan 2013 00:00:00 EST http://www.edgeedgeonthenet.com/?139785 http://www.edgeonthenet.com/index.php?ch=columnists&sc=talkitout&sc2=4&sc3=&id=139785 Like a fear of public speaking, being afraid to approach guys involve deep-rooted fears & childhood experiences. Don't shy away from approaching guys you like. You just may be pleasantly surprised. Wed, 12 Dec 2012 00:00:00 EST http://www.edgeedgeonthenet.com/?138858 http://www.edgeonthenet.com/index.php?ch=columnists&sc=talkitout&sc2=4&sc3=&id=138858 Hooking up online has become nearly ubiquitous in the gay world. Grindr has taken the old bathhouse cruising and brought it into the street. But all this fast-food sex can have consequences. Sat, 10 Nov 2012 00:00:00 EST http://www.edgeedgeonthenet.com/?137710 http://www.edgeonthenet.com/index.php?ch=columnists&sc=talkitout&sc2=4&sc3=&id=137710 'The New Normal' & 'Partners' bring up some uncomfortable situations as well as the old question about stereotyping gay characters & behavior -- and the ways that can be used by our enemies against us. Wed, 03 Oct 2012 00:00:00 EST http://www.edgeedgeonthenet.com/?136434 http://www.edgeonthenet.com/index.php?ch=columnists&sc=talkitout&sc2=4&sc3=&id=136434 It wasn't enough that many of us had to endure incessant bullying when we were growing up; now researchers are finding that the effects last well into adulthood. But you can fight the effects -- by standing up for yourself & others. Mon, 27 Aug 2012 00:00:00 EST http://www.edgeedgeonthenet.com/?135595 http://www.edgeonthenet.com/index.php?ch=columnists&sc=talkitout&sc2=4&sc3=&id=135595 On the phone, online chat or texting, too many gay men casually lie about themselves, about how they feel to the other person. It comes from a sense of shame, but won't change until one recognizes it. Mon, 30 Jul 2012 00:00:00 EST http://www.edgeedgeonthenet.com/?134709 http://www.edgeonthenet.com/index.php?ch=columnists&sc=talkitout&sc2=4&sc3=&id=134709 After marching all day in NYC's Gay Pride, I was on a high -- until my brother answered the phone and tried to bring me down with his sharp moralizing. Every day is Gay Pride, which means asserting it to the naysayers. Sun, 01 Jul 2012 00:00:00 EST http://www.edgeedgeonthenet.com/?133997 http://www.edgeonthenet.com/index.php?ch=columnists&sc=talkitout&sc2=4&sc3=&id=133997 Younger gay men are so attached to their iPhones that they are unaware of the world around them. Not only are they missing the actual living of their lives, they've become hermits amidst the noise. Fri, 08 Jun 2012 00:00:00 EST http://www.edgeedgeonthenet.com/?133266 http://www.edgeonthenet.com/index.php?ch=columnists&sc=talkitout&sc2=4&sc3=&id=133266 An unfortunate Mother's Day incident with a very, very incorrigible college-age nephew inspired me to write a set of guidelines for the most basic good behavior in the over-sharing social media age. Sat, 19 May 2012 00:00:00 EST http://www.edgeedgeonthenet.com/?132753 http://www.edgeonthenet.com/index.php?ch=columnists&sc=talkitout&sc2=4&sc3=&id=132753 When my mother had an accident during my road trip to Florida, I knew I would be seeing more of her, despite my having two close siblings living closer to her than I am. Mon, 07 May 2012 00:00:00 EST http://www.edgeedgeonthenet.com/?119203 http://www.edgeonthenet.com/index.php?ch=columnists&sc=talkitout&sc2=4&sc3=&id=119203 The song that immediately came to mind when I heard the news was 'Ding Dong the Witch Is Dead' from 'The Wizard of Oz.' Wed, 02 May 2012 00:00:00 EST http://www.edgeedgeonthenet.com/?131804 http://www.edgeonthenet.com/index.php?ch=columnists&sc=talkitout&sc2=4&sc3=&id=131804 When I heard my ex-lover had died suddenly, I immediately knew that his ongoing abuse of anabolic steroids was at least partly to blame. Add him to the casualty list of friends who died because they wanted to look 'perfect.' Mon, 09 Apr 2012 00:00:00 EST http://www.edgeedgeonthenet.com/?130675 http://www.edgeonthenet.com/index.php?ch=columnists&sc=talkitout&sc2=4&sc3=&id=130675 The horrific in-home death of a gay man in New York City brings up the specter of the potential of violence when allowing a stranger into one's home -- under any circumstances. Sat, 10 Mar 2012 00:00:00 EST http://www.edgeedgeonthenet.com/?129947 http://www.edgeonthenet.com/index.php?ch=columnists&sc=talkitout&sc2=4&sc3=&id=129947 As were we all, I was shocked & saddened by the death of this great talent. The apparent emptiness from which she sought refuge in addictions speaks to all of us who are hurting inside. Tue, 14 Feb 2012 00:00:00 EST http://www.edgeedgeonthenet.com/?129511 http://www.edgeonthenet.com/index.php?ch=columnists&sc=talkitout&sc2=4&sc3=&id=129511 Everyone tends to feel a little more blue in the wintertime. Here are a few ways to beat the doldrums and get the pep back, even if the temperature stays in single digits. Wed, 01 Feb 2012 00:00:00 EST http://www.edgeedgeonthenet.com/?128623 http://www.edgeonthenet.com/index.php?ch=columnists&sc=talkitout&sc2=4&sc3=&id=128623 In order to keep our New Year's resolutions, the first one should be not to beat ourselves up over New Year's resolutions. The second should be to reach out to others to help us achieve our goals. Sun, 08 Jan 2012 00:00:00 EST