Five Gay Wedding Tips
Getting married is finally an option for gay people. One thing that anyone who is engaged will tell you is that planning a wedding is stressful. They didn't invent the term "bridezilla" for nothing. Just because there may not be a bride walking down the aisle, we all know the "sassy queen" living inside could be about 1.5 seconds away from giving the florist a piece of our minds.
As you prepare for your big day, remember the following five tips and the stress will fall away, like water off a duck's back.
Focus on what you want.
In many gay weddings, the couple will be laying out the money; most of us don't expect our parents to pay for the wedding, and many LGBT people don't even have their parents' support. Since you will be paying, you get to have the wedding that you (as a couple) want. Just because your family has been going to the same church for the past 50 years doesn't mean that you have to have the deacon say the blessing. It's your day so do as you wish.
I suggest that you and your partner make a list of things that you feel are "must haves" for the wedding. Don't leave anything off the list since it's just for you guys. After you both have a list, work together to compromise to include as many elements from each other's list as you can. The key here is compromise - if you can't do it now, it doesn't bode well for the rest of your years of wedded bliss.
Don't worry about "tradition"
One of the best parts of a gay wedding is that you don't have to pay one iota of attention to "tradition." I am sure that in 50 or 100 years, there will be new traditions that gay men across the country are following, but for now, anything goes.
Now is the time to start your own traditions as a couple. Gay men and their relationships are hardly traditional so you can choose what traditions you want to stick with, but don't feel like you have to do something just because it's what straight people have been doing throughout the ages. One of the things I like least about many "traditional" weddings is involving a member of the clergy...just because. I have attended so many friends' weddings, who paid a preacher or priest to officiate at their wedding, because "that's what you do." If you go to church every Sunday or you are religious, by all means, have your preacher or Rabbi marry you, but if not, don't feel like you need one to get married.